Since August 2002, Dina's father, Richard Venezky, has been fighting a case of adult leukemia. Dina has been regularly updating family and friends on his progress. We're also keeping the updates here so that people can get caught up on Dick's status if they have missed some of the earlier updates.
It is with great sadness and honor that I announce the death of my father, Richard Lawrence Venezky, today, June 11th, 2004. My father was an amazing man who excelled in so many ways. He was a loving father, a caring husband, a loyal friend, a committed mentor, an inspiring teacher, an honored scholar, an avid collector, and a gifted gardener. He enriched our lives in so many ways and we will all miss him dearly. In the past few weeks I have thought about the pain of losing him and came to realize how fortunate I am to have had him in my life for so long. I realize that there will be many unanswered questions but that one of the gifts my father gave to me was the set of tools to learn on my own and the joy in doing so. I will always want to know exactly how I can best educate my children or how he made his garden grow but I will also take pleasure in knowing that he is proud of me as I go through this process of discovery. I will think of him every time I work in the garden, eat a vegetable, read a book, or learn a new skill. We love you Dad.
Much love,
Dina
We are requesting pictures and stories of Dad. These can be sent to me by email (or by mail) to be archived for the family, in particular, Benjamin and baby #2.
Information about the funeral below.
Benjamin points out a lemon on the tree that Dad and I planted when we first moved into our house in California. The tree has grown considerably since then.
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A funeral service will be held in Delaware on Sunday, June 13th at 2:00 pm at Temple Beth El in Newark, DE.
301 Possom Park Rd Newark, DE 19711, (302-366-8330)
The burial will occur afterwards at the Schoenberg funeral home (302.762.0334)
519 Philadelphia Pike Wilmington, DE 19809
You can fly into the Philadelphia airport. Bereavement rates may be available for the airlines by giving the funeral home number.
A block of rooms is being reserved at the Hotel DuPont (www.dupont.com) - it's a fabulous hotel.
11th and Market Streets, Wilmington, Delaware 19801
Reservations: 1-800-441-9019 or 302-594-3100. Fax 302-594-3108
The room rate for Fri, Sat., and Sun is $169/night.
If you have any difficulties you can call the manager, Dan Krompton 302.594.3127.
There are other hotels in the area as well (Marriott Courtyard 800.321.2211 and Sheridan Suites 800.325.3535 both in Wilmington).
Mom will be sitting shiva starting Sunday at 7pm and then Monday through Thursday nights at 8pm. Sitting shiva is a time of mourning and visitors are welcome to stop by the house. My reference book on the life cycle states the following.
"One enters the house without ringing the bell or knocking; mourners are not hosts, nor are guest emissaries of good cheer. There is very little that can be said at times like this, but words are not as important as the presence of friends. It is enough that people come, in the words of the prophet Ezekiel, to 'Sigh in silence'...It is considered inappropriate to send or bring flowers to a Jewish house of mourning. A donation to a charity in the name of the deceased is considered a far more meaningful tribute. Gifts of food are, however, traditional. But rather than bring the sixth plate of brownies, it may be more helpful to call whomever is taking responsibility for food in the house..."
Our family friend, Tony, has kindly offered to help coordinate.
Hi. It appears that I was a little optimistic about Dad getting out of the hospital in the near future. He's in good spirits but has had and recovered from another fever. He is continuing to fight the lung issue and the doctors are working on reducing his cough. In the meantime, we are trying to limit his talking so he doesn't cough too much. We greatly enjoy hearing fun stories about Dad that we can share with him and any entertaining movie suggestions (preferably of the "Bring it On" variety where concentration is not really required instead of anything that Dad might choose to see in a movie theater).
Thanks again and much love,
Dina
Info on Bring it On, in case you haven't seen it.
Torrance Shipman (Kirsten Dunst) is an ideal high school girl: She's captain of her school's decorated cheerleading squad and has a perfect college boyfriend. But pressure mounts as Torrance attempts to lead her crew to its sixth consecutive national title. She's determined to let nothing -- not family, schoolwork, boyfriend or a talented inner-city squad with a score to settle -- get in the way of winning. Starring Kirsten Dunst, Jesse Bradford, Nathan West, Eliza Dushku, and Gabrielle Union.
ps Congratulations to one of my best friend's, Audra, who was married this weekend in Boston and has a birthday today!
Benjamin plays with chalk at GeoKids. The boots are for jumping in the mud pit the teachers make on occasion. Benjamin loves the mud...
Benjamin jumping at gymnastics. Not a great picture but he's getting harder and harder to catch on film.
Hi -
As one of Dad's doctors said the other day, "it looks like you dodged another bullet." The radiation appears to be getting rid of the lymphoma. There is still concern about the fungus in Dad's lungs but Dad may be released from the hospital in the next week or so. Dad is still coughing, due to difficulty swallowing, and it's unclear why things are going into his airway but Mom says that he is looking better and feeling better.
We hope everyone has had a good spring and we look forward to a joyous summer.
Love,
Dina
Benjamin admires and then picks the first strawberry to grow in his garden. He hasn't learned to use two hands to pick fruits and vegetables yet but we're working on it.
Benjamin plays with the parachute at his friend's birthday party.
Hi All -
The following is a message from one of Dad's colleagues about
an award that the University of Delaware has created in Dad's name.
Information about the award was first presented at the Festschrift
and we are all very excited about it.
Love,
Dina
ps I will be sending another update shortly.
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Dear Dick Venezky's friends and fans,
I'm often trying to think of something nice to do for Dick Venezky, a
delightful friend and colleague. I admit that my imagination runs the
limited gamut from Winnie the Pooh stickers to occasionally amusing books.
However, Dick's friends at the University of Delaware have come up with an
inspired gift: the Richard Venezky Award. The award will be given to a
graduate student in the School of Education at the University of Delaware,
quite possibly someone engaged in research related to literacy and school
learning. Dick was thrilled when told about the award. His friends at the
University of Delaware are consulting with Dick about the specific criteria
for the award.
If you are interested in making a donation, you may make out a check to the
University of Delaware and write "donation for Venezky fund" in the notes or
memo line. You may mail the check to:
Ludwig Mosberg, Ph.D.
Professor Emeritus
School of Education
University of Delaware
Newark, DE 19716
If you have any questions about the Richard Venezky Award, Dr. Mosberg's
email address is mosberg@udel.edu. Dr. Roberta Michnick Golinkoff is
another one of the talented ringleaders of this effort to honor Dick, and
her email address is roberta@UDel.Edu.
I think this is a wonderful opportunity for those of us who have been trying
to think of something nice to do for Dick. I figured you might think so
too. If you know other friends who might be interested, please feel free to
forward my email to them.
Best wishes, Nancy Loy (nancyloy@erols.com)
Hi. I've been told that the Festschrift was a huge success and I can't wait to see the video. Dad, unfortunately, was not able to attend. He had a fever of 104 on Friday and although it is back down, there are still concerns. I am assuming that he will be starting another round of anti-fungal drugs tomorrow and I will write again when I know more. Mom and Elie attended the dinner. Each of the participants stood up and talked about how they met Dad and the work they've done together. I was told that it was wonderful. There aren't words to describe how lucky I feel and how much I appreciate hearing about it - thank you. Attached is the final slide of Roberta's talk (I hope it was okay to distribute).
Thank you again and much love,
Dina
Hi. This weekend Dad's colleagues are holding a Festschrift (see definition below) for him in Delaware. There are about 50 people flying in for a full day of presentations on Saturday. The plan is for him to leave the hospital to attend. We are all very excited and I wish I could be there!
Here's to a great weekend.
Love,
Dina
Festschrift - A volume of learned articles or essays by colleagues and admirers, serving as a tribute to a scholar. ETYMOLOGY: German : Fest, festival; see fest + Schrift, writing (from Middle High German schrift, from Old High German scrift, from scr ban, to write, from Latin scr bere).
Here is the image of the logo used for the event. My cousin David painted it for my father a while ago and it hangs in his office at home.
Benjamin playing with his Thomas the Tank Engine trains on his new rug. His love of Thomas is really quite amazing.
Hi. Shortly after I wrote the previous update, Dad started to run a fever and went back into the hospital. The fever broke yesterday and the doctors performed a biopsy on the mass in Dad's lungs today (Dad was previously on IV drugs to reduce the mold in his lungs and after significant progress was made he was put on an oral anti-fungal that may have stopped being effective). We are now waiting to hear what the doctors find. Dad is resting and continues to be in good spirits.
We continue to focus on the positive and thank you for your best wishes.
Love,
Dina
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Benjamin and Uncle Elie practice yoga. Benjamin now mentions his uncle every time he does downward facing dog.
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Benjamin goes ice skating for the first time. We are looking into double blade (bob) skates for our next trip to the rink.
I'm afraid that I don't have good news. The chemotherapy to fight the lymphoma is not working and we are waiting to hear about alternative options. Dad is having some difficulty talking, due to the tumor in his throat, but is otherwise in good spirits. He spent part of today in the garden, which is beautiful as always (see the picture below of Dad and Benjamin from our visit two weeks ago). Benjamin is now helping in our garden and some of his strawberries are just starting to get ripe.
I will send another update once we have more information.
Thank you.
Love,
Dina
ps We had a great visit the other weekend to celebrate Benjamin and Dad's birthdays. I'm now about 7 1/2 months pregnant and will not be flying back to the east coast until after the baby is born.
Dad, Mom, Stephen, Benjamin, and I watch the Andean Condors in the rain at the Brandywine Zoo.
Dad tells Benjamin about one of his herb gardens before we left to go to the airport.